Time: Sat Nov 02 19:10:46 1996
To: marmstrong <marmstrong@snowcrest.net>
From: Paul Andrew Mitchell [address in tool bar]
Subject: Re: around today?
Cc:
Bcc:
At 05:46 PM 11/2/96 -0800, you wrote:
>
>>>>In the meantime, please don't be hard
>>>>on yourself. I picked up just a little
>>>>bit of self-depreciation. Am I right?
>>>
>>>It is my way of pre-apologizing for
>>>unintented relationship faux pas.
This is an oxymoron, yes?
"Pre-apologizing" is like
saying, "You're not going
to like this," and then I
can say, "How would you know?"
That's all the fun of a new
relationship, don't you think?
Being spontaneous and knowing
the other can join in.
>>
>>I did not feel that way at all.
>>That is why I said what I did;
>>you are doing this to yourself.
>>
>Yes. That is entirely correct.
Now you have grown out of that
faux pas already. I have decreed
it so.
>
>Here's an analogy: I have a program
>called Tuneland with Howie Mandel
>that came with my computer. It is a
>children's program with cartoon animals
>and silly songs in Howie's voice. I find
>it to be very obnoxious and irritating.
>
>When I did a clean up of my memory, I tried
>to remove old "Tuneland." Apparently it has
>hidden memory files and some of them are
>necessary for the proper function of other
>windows programs. I erased what I could, but
>when I start up windows I get an error message
>on FMedia (probably has something to do with
>MPEG.) I don't know how to fix it so I just
>hit ok in acknowledgement and go on.
>
>Once in a while I will hit the wrong button and
>Tuneland will start up and then freeze. There is
>no way to get out of it except to shut down and
>restart. I don't want to go to Tuneland. I just
>have to remember not to hit the wrong button.
>
>I haven't discovered any other programs that are
>affected by my alterations to Tuneland, but it
>will probably pop up unexpectedly or cause a
>malfunction when I run a program that I rarely
>use.
Were you referring to the notion
of "tapes," in which a behavior
pattern becomes ingrained, and
runs itself whenever it is energized
by some external event? You know,
our biological make-up is governed
by these long pre-coded sequences,
so you should not feel that this is
something unusual or aberrant. Take
a close at DNA, and you will see
exactly what I mean. The function
of reverse transcriptase is to
initiate a long replication sequence,
down at the building-block level of
life.
>
>I have often been criticized
>>of "rushing" things in relationships.
>>Maybe a better model is organic
>>biology, in which flowers bloom
>>in their own good time. Do you
>>like flowers? I love daffodils
>>and plumeria, in any order.
>>
>Not at all. I was speeding along right
>there with you. Thought I was, perhaps,
>rushing too fast because I was enjoing it
>so much.
>
>(I know what you meant last night
>about needing a nap. I once had a
>group of kittens that needed to find
>homes. They were barricaded in the
>kitchen with a board. They would meow
>and try to climb the barrier all night
>until they would literally fall over in
>a dead sleep. I tend to get that way
>when I'm excited.)
>
>>>Maybe I need a code word like "bookmark"
>>>- meaning, taking care of business will
>>>get back to you.
>>
>>check.
>>
>> "Reality check" -
>>>meaning, hold on there you're going too
>>>fast and we need to straighten out
>>>a miscommunication or assumption.
>>
>>We call it "pushing the stack"
>>in computer science; this means
>>that you hold the current routine,
>>and branch to a different routine,
>>and then return when you finish the
>>latest routine. "Returning" is called
>>"popping the stack". Imagine an
>>in-box placed on a scale, and each
>>new document pushes the lower ones
>>down by equal amounts, so the top
>>documents is always at the same
>>elevation.
>>
>Sort of like "sidebar" in journalism
>or "link" in html?
>
>One structure I like is to strive
>>for 50/50 time: you get 50% of the
>>clock time in a conversation, and I
>>get 50% of the clock time in a
>>conversation. The one whose time
>>it is, can yield to the other, but
>>only by choice. Wanna play?
>>
>Yes. I think that is what I was originally
>trying to get at. I was having just too
>good a time feeling the focus of attention
>and felt like a hog.
You don't sound like a hog,
and you don't look like a hog,
(I am relying here on your
own description of yourself),
so, you cannot be a hog,
no way!! If it walks like a duck,
and flies like a duck, and swims
like a duck, IT MUST BE A DUCK!
>>
>>I saw a fantasy picture of you in a
>>clothing advertisement in today's
>>local paper. Would you mind if I
>>were to scan it and email it to you?
>>
>No, but how do I read it. (Also, keep
>in mind that I never was the Prom
>Quenn, cheeleader category. (To my
>mother's vocalized disappointment -
>she once tried to call me Marcie, but
>it never fit.) Also, remember that I am
>46 (almost 47) and, although I am amazingly
>virtually wrinkle-free, things have shifted
>some from my younger days. i.e. may I
>suggest that you don't develop unrealistic
>expectations. That way you won't be
>disappointed if we should ever manage to
>meet.
I wasn't thinking "if" but "when".
I hope you don't mind if I am
rather forward. After this
introduction, meeting is a must,
don't you agree? We have a chance
here to become lifelong friends,
and that is a chance I will not
pass up, not for all the earthly
riches in the world. By the way,
do you know an Alan & Rebecca Call
in Redding? I got something from
them today, and wanted to know if
it was at your prompting.
>
>Bear in mind that the model is
>>a bit younger than you, but I did
>>feel your influence in my dreams last
>>night. Did you send me any mental
>>pictures on purpose, or were these
>>pictures of my own making?
>
>I worked the football snack shack and was
>dead tired. I tried to send a visual image
>of a glass snow scene ball and tried to
>find my copy of the movie Robin Hood to
>load some visual scenery pictures, but my
>concentration was unfocussed. I went to bed
>and curled up snuggling a side pillow (as
>I occassinally do for comforting.) I can't
>remember my dreams of last night.
I forgot them the moment I woke up,
but then I asked for help remembering,
and the memory returned: I was wearing
a ring upside down on the wrong hand.
A woman's voice explained the right way,
and then everything was ok. The dream
ended there.
>
>This is
>>a reality check for me.
>
>Also, I am
>>probing you about your taste in
>>clothes.
>
>My figure is long-wasited and I have been
>well "endowed by my creater." I do best
>in "tailored" clothes that move in rythm
>with the body. (I took ballet when I was
>small.) I don't like frilly things with
>lots of ruffles, but lace is good. I
>wear jeans and tight fitting tee shirts or
>sweatshirts for casual wear. I wear long
>skirts and sweaters for work. I hang around
>the house in sweatpants and sweatshirts or
>shorts and tee shirts. I sleep in a short
>belly button tee shirt or in the nude. I
>have a full wardrobe of "teddies" in a drawer
>and a full box of business suits in the attic.
>
>What do you wear?
Usually nothing, or underwear
and a T-shirt if I am cold.
>
>You will find that I am
>>a rather direct person, so you should
>>not be afraid to say that you do not
>>like something. Process of elimination
>>is very very effective, even though
>>it does take extra time. We have lots
>>of time, Marcia: you were conceived
>>into eternal life, you know.
>>
>I am, by nature, I believe, very direct also.
>I have found most people are taken aback by
>this. Especially, in male/female relationships
>it can get real wierd, when you bang pots and pans
>in the kitchen to indicate your mad, etc.)
Did you see "Dirty Rotten Scoundrels"?
Steve Martin has a scene where he is
this infantile adult locked in a big
playroom, and when Michael Caine arrives
with his next "victim", Ruprict must
bang on the drums for her. It is
hilarious.
>
>>>
>>>>Later, okay?
>>>>
>OK
>>>>/s/ Paul Mitchell
>>>
>>>Signing off till later to get down to
>>>swabbing the home decks.
>>
>>I love it when everything
>>is squeeky clean. I am not
>>exactly meticulous about these
>>things, but I do enjoy a long
>>hot shower, after doing laundry,
>>sheets, towels, then a careful
>>shave, and everything takes
>>on a completely different feel.
>>It's a little bit of heaven to
>>know that nothing is then off-limits
>>to the gentle touch of all hands.
>>
>Afraid you have a creative researcher on
>this side. Piles of books and articles
>stacked. Do housework when it gets so
>bad that I feel guilty.
>>>
>>>Mar
>><snip>
>>>>
>>>PS: Sorry about tardiness of response. My local server
>>>must be swamped. I keep getting a Cause "time out" on
>>>Eusora and Netscape won't connect. I'll keep trying
>>>periodically.
>>>MHA
>>
>>I am still trying to find time to get
>>back to your previous email. Will you
>>mind if I take some time later to go
>>through it carefully, and give you
>>feedback? I will try to be as loving
>>and constructive as I can, with the
>>hopes of helping you see how you were
>>unnecessarily hard on yourself.
>
>OK - Take your time. I know you
>will ccome back.
>
>Guess I was self anal-izing.
>
>>I am standing by.
>>
>>/s/ Paul Mitchell
>
>Mar
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